I’m at a weird crossroad in my life where I’m not really sure how I define myself. My career has always been important. Now, without work to go to everyday, I’m finding myself a bit… lost.
DH started work on Tuesday. There was a job opportunity for me in a neighboring city, but I chose not to accept it because we don’t know where we’ll be living yet and I may be able to work as a freelancer from home for my former managers. Also, as we start the adoption process all over again, it wouldn’t be a bad idea if one of us had a more flexible schedule. We’ve learned that adoptions from the region we used to live in can happen quickly (we’re still keeping those options open, even though we’ve moved), so I really didn’t want to start a job, only to request leave or resign a few months down the road.
It’s a huge risk. I’ve never been without a job. I have an aversion to organizing my own finances so self-employment has not always been the best choice for me. I’m also terrified that an adoption might not happen for a long time, in which case, I will be kicking myself for letting that job opportunity in the city go. DH’s family has been nice enough to house us and the pups until we find a home or a rental.
Surely, some contracts will come through. I’ve been written into several proposals over the last month; something will have to come through soon, right? Otherwise, I’m just a stay-at-home… dog-owner? napper? experimental chef? I dunno. What do you think?
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December 3, 2009 at 8:14 pm
babyinterrupted
I took a sabbatical a few years ago, for three months, and while it was fantastic and wonderful, it also made me realize how much of my life and identity revolves around work. Are there ways you can enjoy the freedom you have now? (I’m big on naps, personally.) Or can you take a class you’ve always wanted to try? Or volunteer someplace that’s hard to get to during the day when you have a job?
Then again, experimental cooking sounds good too. 🙂
Oh, and by the way – I am COMPLETELY on board with your last facebook-related post. HATE that crap. I, too, have made liberal use of the ‘hide’ feature. I wish there was a way to hide certain words, not just people: like any post with the word ‘pregnant,’ or with an ultrasound image, would just not show up on my news feed.
December 4, 2009 at 2:09 pm
Sarah
I think keeping a flexible schedule for the upcoming adoption process is a great idea. I’m sure once you get into your own home, that you’ll find plenty to keep you busy around the house :).
One of my goals when I quit my job is to finally learn to play the violin my husband bought me 5 years ago!