Happy new year everyone!
It’s been a long time since my last post. When you last heard from me, I was stuck at home. Not much has changed since then. Oh,except that I now have a set of wheels, which means I could leave the house (which was in the country, 10 miles from the nearest store… I got to know the property reallllly well!). I feel like I’m 16 again and just got my driver’s license (weeeeeeeee!).
Also, we’ve moved to town a few days ago, closer to DH’s work, so we’re one step closer to settling. We continue to search for homes, but in the meantime, we’ve settled into a townhouse for a few months. I love my little town! There are great restaurants, a lovely main street and lots of places to take the dogs out for long walks.
The holidays were rough. I went shopping and stopped at a cell phone store to pick up another charger for our phone (ours got lost in the move). I ended up leaving the store feeling like I’d been punched in the gut. I wanted to look up our account at the store, and since it’s in DH’s name, I mentioned that he was at work while I ran some errands at the mall. The insensitive sales guy says “I wish I was a woman. It’s so easy for you. I’ve been working my whole life.” UUUUUHhh…. Did he just say that? He did NOT just say that did he?!! I was frozen in a weird monologue in my head…. Do I tell him I’ve actually had a successful career and am taking a break? That I just completed my Masters while working full time? That he was a sexist jerk?
I decided I didn’t owe this guy any information about myself, but he kept chattering on…. After learning that I didn’t have kids, he went on and on about how they make it all worth it and I had better start trying soon. Once again, I had that internal monologue, which was peppered with more colorful language this time.
So, I’m no longer with that company. Not solely because of this interchange, but that didn’t endear me to them. I was tempted to write a letter to their head office, but like my personal information, I’m not sure it’s worth my time. The sales guy can take his company’s cute advertising, with the cute farm animals and catchy music and stuff it up his ….
On top of all that, there was the barrage of social obligations attached to the holidays. We traveled to see my parents, and I caught up with some old friends. It was great but hard too. They all have young kids and new babies. Ultimately, the conversation turns to their kids, and then it’s hard not to feel like they’re at a different party, and we’re not invited. Oh well. On the one hand, it’s so nice and comfortable to see them again, but it was so difficult to keep smiling. I felt empty by Boxing Day.
On a positive note, we met with our adoption practitioner. She’s terrific. Very professional and direct. We’re currently trying to complete the mountain of forms. The process in this region is a million times more detailed than in the region we used to live and some of the questions are really hard to answer. We’re almost done and hope to arrange the first homestudy interview soon (I hope!).
Ok, this has been a long update. I’ll close this here for now, and will try to post more regularly now that we’re more settled!! Thanks to all of you who commented on my last couple of posts. I’m looking forward to the future and will definitely be taking some of your suggestions!