December 2005
DH and I begin TTC.

January 2006
Preconception appointment

May 2006
Purchase the amazing book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. Read it from cover to cover.

June 2006
Begin ‘taking charge’ by charting using a basal thermometer. Learn fun, new acronyms like BBT, OPK, DH and BD. Feel like I’m drowning in an alphabet soup!

July 2006
Make another appointment with a doctor, since I’m over 35 and have been TTC for 6 months. Doctor “Lumpfish” tells me I’m trying too hard, and I should try to relax.

The next 6 months…
I try really hard to relax.

This is difficult because I wake up at 7am every day, take my BBT, analyze the charts, read the OPKs and check for EWCM to discern the best time to BD. I’ve also given up coffee and alcohol which, surprisingly, doesn’t contribute to a relaxed frame of mind.

December 2007
Visit the doctor again. This time, see a more sympathetic female doctor. She prepares a referral to the closest fertility clinic. It is a 4-hour flight from here.

February 2007
DH goes for testing at the local hospital. Sperm may be a little on the low side but we’re told they look fine.

Summer 2007
Finally! I fly to the city for my first appointment at the fertility clinic.
They take a baseline ultrasound and some blood.  I am devastated to learn of my very low ovarian reserves and limited window to conceive. I end up in tears in parking lot.

Fall 2007
DH flies to the city to go for testing at the clinic. We find out there are morphology issues that were missed by the hospital’s less sensitive tests.

December 2007
We sign the papers for IVF treatments.

We spend the next several months making arrangements to spend a month in the city for IVF treatments. This proves to be an interesting juggling act involving my irregular cycles, our jobs, and the availability of short term, affordable accommodations in the city. But, we’re ready to uproot and give this a shot.

June 2008
Begin IVF treatment, antagonist protocol.

June 27

July 2008
Wonderful, healthy ultrasound. Heart beat is 150 bpm. I fall in love with a tiny, smudgy, flicker of light on the screen.

August 2008
Inexplicably begin bleeding. I miscarry and my heart breaks.

October 2008
Meet with an international adoption agency. Gasp at the expense, but begin to consider this option.

December 2008
Visit clinic during our Christmas visits to family. My ovarian reserves are half of what they were last year.

January 2009
After much discussion, we decide to try IVF one more time. Hope and pray that our managers understand (they do). Hope and pray that our experience with IVF #1 might prepare us for any possibility.

Spend the next few months updating lab work, finding accommodations, and trying to work with my very irregular cycles, which were thrown off-balance by the miscarriage.

April 2, 2009
Begin BCP in preparation for IVF #2 at the end of April. Also, complete application package for adoption.

April 24, 2009
Begin the stim phase.

May 5, 2009
Retrieval of 4 eggs

May 8, 2009
Three-day transfer of 1 embryo.

May 22, 2009