DH and I begin TTC.
Purchase the amazing book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. Read it from cover to cover.
Begin ‘taking charge’ by charting using a basal thermometer. Learn fun, new acronyms like BBT, OPK, DH and BD. Feel like I’m drowning in an alphabet soup!
Make another appointment with a doctor, since I’m over 35 and have been TTC for 6 months. Doctor “Lumpfish” tells me I’m trying too hard, and I should try to relax.
The next 6 months…
I try really hard to relax.
This is difficult because I wake up at 7am every day, take my BBT, analyze the charts, read the OPKs and check for EWCM to discern the best time to BD. I’ve also given up coffee and alcohol which, surprisingly, doesn’t contribute to a relaxed frame of mind.
Visit the doctor again. This time, see a more sympathetic female doctor. She prepares a referral to the closest fertility clinic. It is a 4-hour flight from here.
DH goes for testing at the local hospital. Sperm may be a little on the low side but we’re told they look fine.
Finally! I fly to the city for my first appointment at the fertility clinic.
They take a baseline ultrasound and some blood. I am devastated to learn of my very low ovarian reserves and limited window to conceive. I end up in tears in parking lot.
DH flies to the city to go for testing at the clinic. We find out there are morphology issues that were missed by the hospital’s less sensitive tests.
We sign the papers for IVF treatments.
We spend the next several months making arrangements to spend a month in the city for IVF treatments. This proves to be an interesting juggling act involving my irregular cycles, our jobs, and the availability of short term, affordable accommodations in the city. But, we’re ready to uproot and give this a shot.
Begin IVF treatment, antagonist protocol.
Wonderful, healthy ultrasound. Heart beat is 150 bpm. I fall in love with a tiny, smudgy, flicker of light on the screen.
Inexplicably begin bleeding. I miscarry and my heart breaks.
Meet with an international adoption agency. Gasp at the expense, but begin to consider this option.
Visit clinic during our Christmas visits to family. My ovarian reserves are half of what they were last year.
After much discussion, we decide to try IVF one more time. Hope and pray that our managers understand (they do). Hope and pray that our experience with IVF #1 might prepare us for any possibility.
Spend the next few months updating lab work, finding accommodations, and trying to work with my very irregular cycles, which were thrown off-balance by the miscarriage.
April 2, 2009
Begin BCP in preparation for IVF #2 at the end of April. Also, complete application package for adoption.
April 24, 2009
Begin the stim phase.
May 5, 2009
Retrieval of 4 eggs
May 8, 2009
Three-day transfer of 1 embryo.
May 22, 2009